Colorado Wedding Ministers

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Medieval Wedding Ceremony

 

Party 1 and Party 2 would like to take a moment to thank you all for being here with them today. They know that making the journey took considerable effort for a good many of you and for this they are deeply grateful. All of you are the most important people in their lives. All of the time and conversations that you have had with Party 1 and Party 2 before they even met helped to make them who they needed to be to find first themselves and then each other. You have shared in their best and their worst days, and you are an irreplaceable part of their yesterdays, their today and all of their tomorrows. So as you can see although many of you don’t live right around the corner you are never far from their hearts.

I look out at you now and I see a rich and diverse weave of differing beliefs, life styles, ages and viewpoints. Yet you are all here celebrating your love for Party 1 and Party 2, wishing for them all that they would want for themselves, rather than what our own hopes many have been. It sounds more like an ideal but it isn’t, and it is in part what makes their life together a thing of such great beauty.

There are many reasons that we share in life’s celebrations with those we love. Ritual itself is designed to cause a change in our lives. The promises that a couple makes must be practical promises that when lived by will actually help them to safeguard their future. Another important aspect of ritual is that in being here we somehow feel closer to the couple by being allowed a peek into their inner most thoughts and feelings at this intensely personal moment of their lives. It reminds the couples here of when it was their special day and the promises they once made, and allows us all to somehow feel closer to one another as the community of family and friends that we truly are.

There is a term that we hear often at events such as this with very little explanation. The term is “Perfect Love and Perfect Trust” or “Unconditional Love” In the case of a marriage, and in the case of all loving, caring, committed relationships the ideal that this speaks of is not about perfection, but of expecting and accepting imperfection and human frailty. It means that a couple must say to one another: ‘I accept and I expect that on occasion you will anger me as I will anger you, and that you will hurt me as I will hurt you; But I know in my heart that between us there is love and affection and friendship that is stronger; And I trust that no pain is caused out ill will, or malice, or pettiness, just as I trust that we are together for a reason and that we will never throw each other away. I trust that at our best we will live together in love and joy and harmony and at our worst we will fight, with and for and beside each other, for the greater good without fear of abandonment. For the divinely inspired desire to be together for a lifetime in indeed something well worthy of fighting for. And these dear friends are the promises that you have been invited to bear witness to this day.

 

Elemental Blessing

“Since ancient times, people have communed with nature to learn more about themselves by example. Since it is within nature that we all do abide, we ask for Party 1 and Party 2 the blessings of Nature’s Elements, Air, Fire, Water and Earth. We do this that they may fully come to understand the lessons each element has to offer. The attributes of which are examples of those aspects they mirror not only within divinity but within ourselves as well.”

“We ask the spirits of Air to keep open the lines of communication between this couple. May their future be as bright as the dawn on the horizon. As Air flows freely to and from and through us all, may their hearts and minds and souls come to know the world and each other in this manner. Seeing not only with their eyes, may they together grow wise with wisdom.”

“Spirits of Fire, we ask that Party 1 and Party 2’s passion for each other and for life itself remain ever strong and vital, fortifying each day with a vibrancy rooted in boldness, and courage. As Fire clears the way for new growth, may they know that this power is theirs: to create change and bring about the richness and quality that comes with a true love of life.”

“We ask the Spirits of Water, that their love for each other and the comfort of loved ones, like the serenity of the deep blue ocean, be the oasis that forever surrounds our Bride and Groom. May they be well loved, and love well, letting the surety with which Water makes its journey to the sea, flowing over rocks or around trees, even turning into vapor and riding a cloud, ever serve as a reminder that with love all is well and will endure.”

 

“Spirits of Earth, we ask that you give unto those you see standing before you this day, the rock solid place to stand and fulfill his destiny. May their journey mirror the vast planes and fertile fields, expansive and alive. May they find the right seeds to sow to ensure a bountiful harvest. And when they look up at the Northern Star, may they know that it is as bright and constant as their love for each other as well as the love of the divine is for them.”

“Father, Mother, Divine Spirit whose presence is felt in all things and at all times we ask your continued blessings upon this couple, upon their union and upon their family and friends who have gathered here to celebrate this joyous event with them. May they become one in truth and forever revel in the magik that is love.”

 

Blessing of the Rings

“<<Best Man >> and <<Maid of Honor>> will you now hold out the rings entrusted to you by Party 1 and Party 2. Your hands beneath serve as a symbol of how Party 1 and Party 2 and their marriage are supported upon this earth by the love of their friends and family as blessed from above.”

<<Best Man>> and <<Maid of Honor>> hold out the wedding bands in the palm of their hands Celebrant continues:

Celebrant takes rings

“The ring finger of the left hand, the side of the body that holds the heart, has been used for the wedding band because for centuries people believed that there was a vein that ran directly from that finger to the heart. They also believed that the words that were spoken during the placing of the ring would resonate over and over, like the circumference of the band itself, through to the heart and soul of both giver and receiver of the most monumental promise of all, the promise of a lifetime as husband and wife."

 

Sword, Chalice and Ring Exchange

Adapted from Ed Fitch's "Rights from the Crystal Well

“Party #2, if it is truly thy desire to become one with this with this man/woman: Then present unto his/her a symbol of thy pledge, and a token of thy love.”

Party #2 drops to one knee, and presents Sword with ring on it

Party #1, you are the most gracious and lovely/handsome one that Party #2 has ever seen, for he/she understands the essence of thy true self. The beauty which radiates around thee can only be rivaled by the beauty which radiates from within thee. The pledge of his/her sword is as the pledge of his/her soul. It is his/her prowess, his/her fire, his/her passion, his/her strength & courage, His/her ability to protect, defend and care for thee. With the strength of his/her blade and the endurance of its steel to represent what is in his/her heart, take from him/her now, as his/her beloved, the ring that rests upon it, and choose him/her to be your own.”

Party #1 takes ring from Sword

Party#1: “I accept the pledge of thy blade and the eternal promise of this wedding band.”

Party #1 takes sword from Party#2 and places the blade from left shoulder to right shoulder to the top of his/her head. The motion, as in bestowing knighthood upon him/her while saying:

Party #1: “For the boy/girl thou were,
For the man/woman thee art,
And for the Husband/Wife thou shall be to me,
I do choose you to be mine own.”

Party#1 returns sword

Party#1: “If thou wilt now place this ring upon mine finger,
I shall from this day forth,
‘till beyond the end of time,
Take thee to be mine own.”

Party#1 opens hand presenting Party#2 with the ring
which he/she then places upon his/her finger

Party #2: "With this ring I thee wed. I take you as my friend, my lover, my husband/wife from this day forth and into the fullness of time where we will meet and remember and love again." 

“Party #1, if it is truly your desire to become one with this man/woman: Then present unto him/her a symbol
of thy pledge and a token of thy love.”

Party #1 bows before Party #2 and presents Chalice with ring inside

“Party #2, in the eyes of this man/woman thou art the only man/woman in the world. Yours is the voice of sound reason and unwavering support. You the spark to the bonfire of his/her passions and yours are the arms in which he/she would have lay down to rest. The pledge of his/her chalice is the pledge of all that is within him/her, his/her felicity and devotion. The place in his/her heart where two souls can be sheltered and nourished, that they may grow together, ever closer, and flourish as the leaves on the trees and the fruits of the vine. As the depth and bounty of his/her chalice foretell the richness of your future together, take from his/her now the band that lies there within, and do choose her as thy own.”

Party#2 takes ring from chalice, Party#1 still holding chalice
Party #2: “I accept the pledge of your chalice and the eternal promise of this wedding band.”

Party# 2 pours wine into chalice then takes it from Party #1

Party #2: “For the boy/girl thou were,
For the man/woman thou art
And for the husband/wife that thee shall be to me,
I toast and drink to thee!
And do choose you to be mine own”

Party #2 makes toasting gesture, drinks and returns chalice to Party#1
Party #2: “If thou will now place this ring upon my finger,
I shall from this day forth,
‘till beyond the end of time,
Take you to be mine own.”

Party #2 opens hand presenting Party #1 with the ring
which he/she then places upon his/her finger

Party #1: "With this ring I thee wed. I take you as my friend, my lover, my husband/wife from this day forth and into the fullness of time where we will meet and remember and love again.”

(Option #1)

Cakes and Ale

“As the Lord and Lady are separate yet one. so have your pledges made you. Drink now of one another’s love and know that you will never again thirst in your heart or in mind, for what each of you lacks the other has to give and the well spring of love flows eternally for those who drink often of it’s waters.

Party 1 and Party 2 sip from chalice

As food and drink nourish the body, so does love feed the soul of marriage. Feed now one another, feed forevermore the spirit of your union and be filled always

Party 1 and Party 2 feed one another of the cake

 

(Option #2)

Handfasting

“Is it also your wish today that your hands be fasted in the ways of old?”

Party 1 and Party 2 “It is.”

“Remember then as your hands are fasted, these are not the ties that bind...”

Cords are held aloft

“The role already taken by the song your hearts share shall be now be strengthened by the vows you take. All things of the material world eventually return to the Earth unlike the bond and the connection your spirits share which is destined to ascend to the heavens.

“May you be forever as one in the passion and fire of you

Party 1 and Party 2 hands are bound

You are now as your hearts have always known you to be,

Husband/Wife. You may kiss!”

(Option #3)

The Broom and Sword

“Brooms are used for cleaning and sweeping. Therefore that they are used to symbolize the sweeping away the remnants of the past which no longer serve us is appropriate. The sword symbolizes the wielding of power and personal responsibility. As the Party 1 and Party 2 jump they are reminded that remaining vigilant over these aspects of the day to day shall help them to achieve the quality of life that they aspire to. <<Maid of Honor>> and <<Best Man>> will you now lay down the Sword and Broom.”

Maid of Honor lays down Broom

Best Man crosses it with the sword

“Now putting the past behind you, and remembering always that the power to create the future ahead of you is your own, jump together into your common future!”

The couple jumps, kisses again, and exits to greet their guests as the circle is quietly broken down.