Colorado Wedding Ministers

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Love lives in all of us

 

~Welcome~

Love is a living thing, waiting within each one of us for an awakening touch. In this ceremony, we will celebrate love come to life for Party 1 and Party 2.  May this love grow sure and strong. We rejoice in its presence among us and we are here as witnesses to its promise and gift: the promise faith; the gift love.   Dear friends and relatives, today we are here to celebrate the love that Party 1  and Party 2 have for each other, and to give social recognition to their decision to accept each other totally and permanently. Into this state of marriage/holy union these two persons come now to be united in this holy and sacred place. Party 1 and Party 2, throughout human history, the founding of a home and a family has been celebrated as an act of high and holy order. It is the maturing of love, freely given and gladly returned. It is in your power, and in your power alone to bless this service--by the sincerity of your purpose, the strength of your common devotion, and the enduring character of your dedication.

 We are honored that you have invited us to witness the happiness that you have found in each other and the pledges in which you commit yourselves to each other in love. We rejoice with you that you will be finding deeper meanings and joys in your lives as you share them in your marriage/holy union. Taught by our own joys and sorrows, successes and failures, we remind you that in unions as in life, those who commit themselves in devotion to their beloved and to their common undertakings shall find the fullness of life. Party 1 and Party 2, today you are taking upon yourselves the potential of a great love already real between you. It is no casual thing to have entered into the inmost life of another person. To make the commitment of love is to risk the pain of grief. And so with this commitment and this risk, you are venturing forth with all the hope two persons can muster. Together you will discover the depths of life. No matter what happens--when you are happy or sad, hopeful or discouraged, close together or far apart--may you always be there for each other. And we friends who share this day with you--may we be here too, if you need us.

 (Optional Wedding Prayer)

Creative Source of Life, in the midst of which we live and move and have our being, in thy name are we meeting together to witness and to bless the union of these two. May it be in their hearts and in their powers, to keep the pledges of this day. May they be a blessing and a comfort to each other, sharers of each other’s sorrow, helpers of each other in all the changes and challenges of the world. May they grow in understanding and love, and may faithfulness to the good of each become the unfailing virtue of them both. So be it.

~Declaration of Intent~

It is one of life’s greatest mysteries of how two people come to meet one another, how some magical and mystical spark is kindled within each and especially how they happen to take the risk of giving voice to their private feelings. From ages forgotten and long before recorded time, humanity has rejoiced and offered prayers of hope and thanksgiving when two have found each other. Today, we gather to stand as witnesses to contribute to your public declaration of love, and today we join together to give our blessing to the joining of these two who have found each other. What makes this celebration today distinctly different is also a part of life’s mystery. There is love, there is commitment, there is a church, there are flowers, family and friends, music, an officiant, and lots of caring people who have given up their day to be here. But the two among us who are pledging their devotion, loyalty, love, and responsibility are both of the same gender. This reality will increase the need for honest conversation, this reality will increase the need for showing respect to one another, this reality will increase the amount of responsibility you must take for and with one another. It is not easy for two people to love one another. It is not easy when they are both of the same gender. It is not easy to proclaim your affection, your attachment, or your bond openly, for many are not yet willing to see beyond their own fears and celebrate the love which we are witnessing this morning. Yet you are doing it with candor and frankness. You are forcing new paths of growth for many, and we are touched deeply that you are joining your lives together.   Remember that we are gathered here with you because we believe that you have the right to publicly declare and express your love, we are gathered with you because we honor and recognize the bond between you and we stand with and beside you to assist in any way that we can.

 

~Vows~

These vows you will now speak to each other as you are about to enter into a marriage/holy union which is most sacred, may the love with which you now join hands and hearts never fail but only grow deeper and stronger each day. Remember that the hand offered by each of you is an extension of self, just as is your mutual love. Cherish the touch, for you touch not only your own, but another life. Be ever sensitive to its pulse. Seek always to understand and to respect its rhythm. 

Officiant to Party 1

Party 1, do you take Party 2 to love and to cherish, to honor and comfort, in sickness and in health, in sorrow or in joy, in hardship or ease, to have and to hold from this day forth?

Party 1

I do.

Officiant to Party 2, please repeat after me:

I promise to express my love for you in all ways possible, to share in your pleasure and your pain and to let you share in mine.  I promise that I will share my thoughts and feelings with you.  I promise that I will give you freedom to be yourself.  I promise that I will try to understand everything that you do.  I promise that I will be honest with you.  I promise that I will help you achieve your goals.  I promise to comfort you, support you, trust you, and deserve your trust.  I promise with my heart, my mind, and my body to honor and cherish you from this day forward.

 

 Officiant to Party 2

Party 2, do you take Party 1 to love and to cherish, to honor and comfort, in sickness and in health, in sorrow or in joy, in hardship or ease, to have and to hold from this day forth?

Party 2

I do.

Officiant to Party 2, please repeat after me:

I promise to express my love for you in all ways possible, to share in your pleasure and your pain and to let you share in mine.  I promise that I will share my thoughts and feelings with you.  I promise that I will give you freedom to be yourself.  I promise that I will try to understand everything that you do.  I promise that I will be honest with you.  I promise that I will help you achieve your goals.  I promise to comfort you, support you, trust you, and deserve your trust.  I promise with my heart, my mind, and my body to honor and cherish you from this day forward.

Optional with children

We know that your family also includes your daughter/son/children, Party 1 and Party 2 that you have pledged to be dedicated to his/her/their welfare and to demonstrate love to him/her/them by the loving models you are with each other. We pray that your marriage/holy union will be strengthened and supported by the love you all have for one another.

Will you, (daughter, son, children), grant Party 1 and Party 2 your blessings and pledge them your love and acceptance?  

(Daughter, son, children)

 I will.

(Optional Reading:)

This reading by Kahlil Gibran rings true to this celebration today.

Listen now to this

Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself. Love possesses not nor would it be possessed; For love is sufficient unto love. When you love you should not say, “God is in my heart,” but rather, “I am in the heart of God.” And think not you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course. Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself. But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires: To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night. To know the pain of too much tenderness. To be wounded by your own understanding of love; And to bleed willingly and joyfully. To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving; To rest at the noon hour and meditate love’s ecstasy; To return home at eventide with gratitude; And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips.

~Rings~

A circle is the symbol of the sun and the earth and the universe, of wholeness and perfection and peace. It is worn on the third finger because of an ancient Greek belief that a vein from that finger connected directly to the heart, thus symbolizing the depth and sincerity of love. The rings you give and receive this day are the symbols of endless love into which you enter.

Officiant to Party 1

Party 1, as you place your ring on Party 2’s finger please repeat after me:

Party 2,  I give you this ring as a symbol of my love. As it encircles your finger, may it remind you always that you are surrounded by my enduring love.

Officiant to Party 2

Party 2 , as you place your ring on Party 1's finger please repeat after me:

Party 1, I give you this ring as a symbol of my love. As it encircles your finger, may it remind you always that you are surrounded by my enduring love. 

 

~Blessing~

We gladly accept you in your new relationship one to another and pledge to dedicate ourselves to the continuing task of helping you build a deep and abiding love that touches all the world. Listen all ye that are present--those who were once distant are now brought together. Those who were separated are now united. What love hath joined together let no one break asunder.  We rejoice with you and as you prepare to leave it is with abiding confidence and affection we send you forth upon your journey of life together.

Since Party 1 and Party 2 have vowed to be loyal and loving toward each other, formalizing in our presence the existence of the bond between them, we bear witness to the ceremony they have performed-the ceremony that has made them partners in life. Because you have spoken a covenant of love and trust to each other and because you have symbolized that love by giving, receiving, and wearing bands of gold, you have made for yourselves a marriage/holy union and by the authority vested in me as a minister of the great and beautiful state of Colorado, I am delighted to declare that your lives are now joined in holy union/marriage.

 May we leave here full of hope, joy, and love and may we remember always the two gathered here with affection, love, and supportive thoughts.

It is now my pleasure to present to you______________

 

You may now kiss.